Tuesday, December 18, 2012

This Elf is Not on the Shelf

The Anonymous Elf surprised customers at The Mom Shop, a gift shop exclusively
for children in residence at Amity House and Hope House.

The Anonymous Elf treated Victim's Advocate Carmen Knox to an impromptu dance number. 

         
          The food at the annual Christmas party for the Glynn Community Crisis Center was delicious, and the portions generous. The Mom Shop, full to the limit with lovely gifts for children to select for their mothers, was exciting in the way that Christmas should be– an opportunity to participate in the joy of giving. The kids were thrilled with their own gifts. But they will remember something else for a long time. Or, rather, someone else: the Anonymous Elf, Santa’s trusty helper.
            When young ones arrived at the Mom Shop, they were greeted by a real, live elf. Pointed felt hat with bells, shoes with upturned curly toes, pointy ears and twinkling eyes. All the requisite elf regalia were there, along with the playful, merry spirit. There was no doubting his authenticity: this was a regulation-issue, bona fide elf.   
            Needless to say, the reaction was surprise and delight. As the children went into the Mom Shop one family at a time, Mr. Anonymous accompanied them and helped as elves are inclined to help, holding the giant bags into which the carefully selected treasures were placed for each lady. After all the shopping was completed for all the adults in residence at Amity House, the Crisis Center’s domestic violence shelter, and Hope House, the transitional living location, the elf joined families at the shelter for another surprise: the arrival of Santa.
            As Santa did a program of Christmas stories and songs with the children, the Anonymous Elf cheerfully participated then did what elves do best. He helped Santa pass out special gifts for each child.
            When a child is removed from the home due to domestic violence and moved into a shelter, especially at holiday time, it can be traumatic. The Crisis Center, which is the beneficiary of the annual A Taste of Glynn event, knows exactly what is needed to make the season bright. A full staff of experts, including advocates for adults specializing in legal matters, career and educational advancement, a full-time specialist dedicated to child advocacy, counselors, house managers and program managers work year-round to help families create new lives full of hope, free from domestic violence. But at Christmas, there’s an additional aspect to their mission: fun. Plus games, parties and presents. Surprises, too. Like a chance to hang out with a real elf.
            Who is this elf, really? Does he have another identity for 364 days a year? We don’t know. He lives up to his name Anonymous Elf. But here is what we do know: he shows up when Santa needs help. He also delivers gifts to needy families, rings the bell and by the time they answer the door–he is gone. He vanishes, actually. He is, as you might expect, very jolly. He is a good guy through and through. When kids–and their parents– need to believe, he just appears somehow. What better place for him to show up for a party than Amity House?
            This holiday season, we all need to believe. Believe in the good that lies in humanity, in our ability to experience joy, in hope for the future. Everyone at the Glynn Community Crisis Center, as well as the sponsors, participating chefs and volunteers for A Taste of Glynn, wish the happiest of holidays to our caring, supportive and loving community.  


Thursday, December 13, 2012

The Mom Shop

From an unassuming office...
... to a shop full  of holiday excitement.

Call it pandemonium. Call it excitement. Call it Christmas.

            Whatever you call it, The Mom Shop at Glynn Community Crisis Center (beneficiary of the funds raised by A Taste of Glynn) turned a perfectly dignified professional office space into holiday central again this year. For months, Adult Advocate Carmen Knox and Children’s Advocate Paula VanOtteren have been gathering gifts for mothers and their children at the Crisis Center’s Amity House, the domestic violence shelter, and Hope House, the transitional living residence for those who are in the process of remaking their lives. The big party on December 12 was the culmination of hours of devotion and love.
            The shelter is full right now. Along with families, Amity House has a number of single women in residence. It’s an especially tough time of year to be away from home, starting over. Even tougher if there are children involved. Victims can arrive at the shelter with only the clothes on their backs. It’s a long way back to the financial stability and security that allows parents to afford gifts for their children.
            This year, the children range in age from 4 to 16. Escorted by a Crisis Center staff member or community volunteer, each family group comes to the Mom Shop sans parent and fills a shopping bag with gifts they select for their mother themselves. The children select one item from each category of gifts; purses, bath products, jewelry, robes and decorative items like small picture frames. The selection is impressive, but the source of this bounty is even more so.
            “We have a very generous community,” noted Carmen Knox. “Gifts come to us for The Mom Shop from area retail stores, from churches and from individuals. These are beautiful things that the children are proud to give as gifts to their parents.
            The Mom Shop offers children at the Crisis Center an opportunity to experience the joy of giving. “Selecting the gifts themselves makes the children so proud,” Paula VanOtteren pointed out. “They love to tell their mothers, ‘I picked this out just for you.’ Our goal is to let the children feel as if they are really shopping for Christmas.”
            The generosity doesn’t stop there. “If we have a family with several children, we give the oldest child a chance to pick out some things for their mother, but also to shop for one of the single ladies in the shelter who might not have a child to shop for her,” Paula explained. “This way, each person has special gifts that someone selected with her in mind. Nobody is left out.”
            It’s a proud, joyous, exciting day. Santa arrives to surprise the children with a gift just from him. Each family has a portrait photograph taken by Paula’s husband, Eliot VanOtteren, the corporate photographer for Sea Island. Special goodies abound. It’s the type of holiday magic that these children might never have experienced previously in their lives.
            Carmen Knox stands by, taking it all in, snapping pictures to remind everyone of the wonderful day. She has worked on this day for months each of the five years she has been on staff with the Crisis Center. The end result is always worth it. “We just have to give huge props to our community,” she repeats. “We could never have done this without them.”